Start Date: Monday, November 4
Schedule: Six weeks, Monday evenings until December 16 (excluding December 2)
Time: 6:00 to 7:30 PM MST (90-minute sessions)
Group Size: Limited to 15 members
As a girl with a strong personality, I tried to tone it down as much as possible because my assertiveness wasn't well tolerated in my family. This led to me over-read the room, all the time, so I could be what others wanted me to be. I didn't speak up or make my opinions known lest I be called a "feminist", our name for pushy women who wouldn't get-what-they-get-and-not-throw-a-fit.
But then after all that people-pleasing behavior, I hit a wall and turned into the wicked witch of the west. I over-asserted myself at work and home - yelling, blaming, and judging everyone for their laziness and irresponsibility. It didn't help that I naturally have the RBF, so I came across as intense and hostile. And truth be told, I was more focused on being right than being in relationship, until the guilt cycled me back to good girl mode again.
Until I learned how to set and hold healthy boundaries. This one skill has changed my life.
No longer needing to protect myself through anger and aggression, I can empathize with the feelings of others and consider their needs while still holding my own. I now know how to help others without giving away the farm so my words and actions convey greater integrity. And I've stepped up to a whole new level of confidence from which I am speaking, leading, and exerting my authority with grace and strength, at least most of the time. :)
I tell you all this because I know first hand just how confusing boundaries can be and how difficult it is to find a healthy balance between passive and aggressive. I understand the impossible situation that women find themselves in and how hard it is to change what you've been taught about boundaries, namely that you shouldn't have any. And I know the courage it takes to be your authentic self, to advocate for your own needs, and to risk losing people or positions in the quest for something better.
As a certified life and leadership coach, author, and personality trainer for the last 10 years, I now get to educate and guide female leaders and purpose-driven professionals toward greater definition and direction. I get to help them find the clarity they seek so they can enjoy vibrant relationships and confidently pursue mission-minded work.
If you're struggling with assertiveness or aggressiveness, I'd love to do the same for you.
Getting clear on my boundaries has changed my life. It's given me the definition and direction I have needed to be intentional and responsible with my words and actions. It's made me confident in my responses and able to speak, lead, and exert my authority. And it's showed me how to hold space for those folks who don't like my boundaries, so that too they will have the opportunity for something much better.
Let me show you what your bigger YES is, so you can, with courage and consideration, use that one simple word, NO.
If you're ready to stand: to respond confidently, lead intentionally, and live authentically, then join me.
In your corner,